Recently i hav seen an article in "India Today"about the increasing rate of Extra marital affairs in india and a survey report related to it.THey comparing this thing with decades and seems having a very high growth rate.I know some cases and some persons who maintain an affair even if they have a loving partner.How a person can go out when having a partner?now i dont know why it happens but i think after get in to married life i can understand the forces behind this.
Women and men tend to get in extra marital affair even after having a smooth, sweet and charming relationship. It’s common being involved in marital infedility, and even rampant the world over. Getting into such affairs arises mostly when certain needs of couples remain unsatisfied due to negligence or improper functioning of usual activities in a marriage.
I think It’s hard to explain that why even after having a successful marriage, couples resort the marital infidelity way. Lots of needs are there and all can’t be satisfied through a marriage. But then, certain needs must be satisfied, and emotional needs fall in the most significant criteria that must be fulfilled at any cost to keep the relationship the way it is meant for.
Marriage is meant to bring happiness, joy and a life full of ecstasy all the time for couples. Initially all marriages would be fine wherein couples get maximum satisfaction even without bothering too much for anything else. But not in the longer run after the heat and momentum of a new wedding goes, there creeps in a void. The couples who were attached finely start finding their all practices and activities monotonous for few reasons even they find hard to know.
Even sexual activities are in full swing, but then the void remains. Physical needs are getting its due, though somehow the emotional needs are taking the backseat.I know some couples they were very close in the initial stage of their married life..both were in a "first stage fantasy"So could forgive the drawbacks and faults each other.but after that the reality began when they both are busy with their job.then lack of communication arise and that resulted a gap.but there was no attempt to solve the thngs and lit up the love in their life again. And that’s the point which prompts couples to indulge in extramarital affairs. In some cases, even couples change their usual tracks much earlier than the expected durations and start find avenues to be satisfied anyhow.
When emotional needs are ignored, the tendencies like stress,depression come in the relationship to further drive the individual to resort to other unfaithful ways.We can just imagine how we react when our "own person"avoid us or become arrogant to us(In my case i can say it will be unbearable for me). The situation becomes even worse for the victim when he/she finds it hard to clearly distinguish the emotional needs of the partner. Attempts are made, but of no avail for being of the same patterns.
Rather, efforts should be made to take care of the aspects that would drive the marriage either with physical needs or emotional needs. The best way is to try knowing the likes and dislikes of your partner, and then rising up to those expectations if the purpose is to stop extramarital affairs to take place.
I think It’s hard to explain that why even after having a successful marriage, couples resort the marital infidelity way. Lots of needs are there and all can’t be satisfied through a marriage. But then, certain needs must be satisfied, and emotional needs fall in the most significant criteria that must be fulfilled at any cost to keep the relationship the way it is meant for.
Marriage is meant to bring happiness, joy and a life full of ecstasy all the time for couples. Initially all marriages would be fine wherein couples get maximum satisfaction even without bothering too much for anything else. But not in the longer run after the heat and momentum of a new wedding goes, there creeps in a void. The couples who were attached finely start finding their all practices and activities monotonous for few reasons even they find hard to know.
Even sexual activities are in full swing, but then the void remains. Physical needs are getting its due, though somehow the emotional needs are taking the backseat.I know some couples they were very close in the initial stage of their married life..both were in a "first stage fantasy"So could forgive the drawbacks and faults each other.but after that the reality began when they both are busy with their job.then lack of communication arise and that resulted a gap.but there was no attempt to solve the thngs and lit up the love in their life again. And that’s the point which prompts couples to indulge in extramarital affairs. In some cases, even couples change their usual tracks much earlier than the expected durations and start find avenues to be satisfied anyhow.
When emotional needs are ignored, the tendencies like stress,depression come in the relationship to further drive the individual to resort to other unfaithful ways.We can just imagine how we react when our "own person"avoid us or become arrogant to us(In my case i can say it will be unbearable for me). The situation becomes even worse for the victim when he/she finds it hard to clearly distinguish the emotional needs of the partner. Attempts are made, but of no avail for being of the same patterns.
Rather, efforts should be made to take care of the aspects that would drive the marriage either with physical needs or emotional needs. The best way is to try knowing the likes and dislikes of your partner, and then rising up to those expectations if the purpose is to stop extramarital affairs to take place.
The faithful spouse has worked hard for the Maintaining the relation; but no matter how hard they work, the unfaithful spouse is going to have an affair because of their own deficiencies.
So try to be a faithful one at least!!!!!!!
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