Saturday, March 14, 2009

A Speech of Dr A P J Abdul Kalam



Why is the media here so negative?
Why are we in India so embarrassed to recognize our own strengths, our achievements? We are such a great nation. We have so many amazing success stories but we refuse to acknowledge them. Why?
We are the first in milk production . We are number one in Remote sensing satellites. We are the second largest producer of wheat. We are the second largest producer of rice. Look at Dr. Sudarshan , he has transferred the tribal village into a self-sustaining, self-driving unit.. There are millions of such achievements but our media is only obsessed in the bad news and failures and disasters. I was in Tel Aviv once and I was reading the Israeli newspaper. It was the day after a lot of attacks and bombardments and deaths had taken place. The Hamas had struck... But the front page of the newspaper had the picture of a Jewish gentleman who in five years had transformed his desert into an orchid and a granary. It was this inspiring picture that everyone woke up to. The gory details of killings, bombardments, deaths, were inside in the newspaper, buried among other news.
In India we only read about death, sickness, terrorism, crime. Why are we so NEGATIVE? Another question: Why are we, as a nation so obsessed with foreign things? We want foreign T. Vs, we want foreign shirts. We want foreign technology. Why this obsession with everything imported. Do we not realize that self-respect comes with self-reliance? I was in Hyderabad giving this lecture, when a 14 year old girl asked me for my autograph. I asked her what her goal in life is. She replied: I want to live in a developed India . For her, you and I will have to build this developed India . You must proclaim. India is not an under-developed nation; it is a highly developed nation. Do you have 10 minutes? Allow me to come back with a vengeance.
Got 10 minutes for your country? If yes, then read; otherwise, choice is yours. YOU say that our government is inefficient. YOU say that our laws are too old. YOU say that the municipality does not pick up the garbage. YOU say that the phones don't work, the railways are a joke, The airline is the worst in the world, mails never reach their destination. YOU say that our country has been fed to the dogs and is the absolute pits.
YOU say, say and say. What do YOU do about it? Take a person on his way to Singapore .. Give him a name - YOURS. Give him a face - YOURS. YOU walk out of the airport and you are at your International best. In Singapore you don't throw cigarette butts on the roads or eat in the stores. YOU are as proud of their Underground links as they are. You pay $5 (approx. Rs. 60) to drive through Orchard Road (equivalent of Mahim Causeway or Pedder Road) between 5 PM and 8 PM. YOU come back to the parking lot to punch your parking ticket if you have
over stayed in a restaurant or a shopping mall irrespective of your status identity... In Singapore you don't say anything, DO YOU? YOU wouldn't dare to eat in public during Ramadan, in Dubai .. YOU would not dare to go out without your head covered in Jeddah . YOU would not dare to buy an employee of the telephone exchange in London at 10 pounds ( Rs.650) a month to, 'see to it that my STD and ISD calls are billed to someone else.'YOU would not dare to speed beyond 55 mph (88 km/h) in Washington and then tell the traffic cop, 'Jaanta hai main kaun hoon (Do you know who I am?). I am so and so's son. Take your two bucks and get lost.' YOU wouldn't chuck an empty coconut shell anywhere other than the garbage pail on the beaches in Australia and New Zealand . Why don't YOU spit Paan on the streets of Tokyo ? Why don't YOU use examination jockeys or buy fake certificates in Boston ??? We are still talking of the same YOU. YOU who can respect and conform to a foreign system in other countries but cannot in your own. You who will throw papers and cigarettes on the road the moment you touch Indian ground. If you can be an involved and appreciative citizen in an alien country, why cannot you be the same here in India ?
Once in an interview, the famous Ex-municipal commissioner of Bombay , Mr. Tinaikar , had a point to make. 'Rich people's dogs are walked on the streets to leave their affluent droppings all over the place,' he said. 'And then the same people turn around to criticize and blame the authorities for inefficiency and dirty pavements. What do they expect the officers to do? Go down with a broom every time their dog feels the pressure in his bowels? In America every dog owner has to clean up after his pet has done the job. Same in Japan .. Will the Indian citizen do that here?' He's right. We go to the polls to choose a government and after that forfeit all responsibility. We sit back wanting to be pampered and expect the government to do everything for us whilst our contribution is totally negative. We expect the government to clean up but we are not going to stop chucking garbage all over the place nor are we going to stop to pick a up a stray piece of paper and throw it in the bin. We expect the railways to provide clean bathrooms but we are not going to learn the proper use of bathrooms. We want Indian Airlines and Air India to provide the best of food and toiletries but we are not going to stop pilfering at the least opportunity. This applies even to the staff who is known not to pass on the service to the public. When it comes to burning social issues like those related to women, dowry, girl child! and others, we make loud drawing room protestations and continue to do the reverse at home.. Our excuse? 'It's the whole system which has to change, how will it matter if I alone forego my sons' rights to a dowry.' So who's going to change the system? What does a system consist of ? Very conveniently for us it consists of our neighbours, other households, other cities, other communities and the government. But definitely not me and YOU. When it comes to us actually making a positive contribution to the system we lock ourselves along with our families into a safe cocoon and look into the distance at countries far away and wait for a Mr.Clean to come along & work miracles for us with a majestic sweep of his hand or we leave the country and run away. Like lazy cowards hounded by our fears we run to America to bask in their glory and praise their system. When New Yorkbecomes insecure we run to England .. When England experiences unemployment, we take the next flight out to the Gulf. When the Gulf is war struck, we demand to be rescued and
brought home by the Indian government. Everybody is out to abuse and rape the country. Nobody thinks of feeding the system. Our conscience is mortgaged to money.
Dear Indians, The article is highly thought inductive, calls for a great deal of introspection and pricks one's conscience too..... I am echoing J. F.. Kennedy 's words to his fellow Americans to relate to Indians....
'ASK WHAT WE CAN DO FOR INDIA AND DO WHAT HAS TO BE DONE TO MAKE INDIA WHAT AMERICA AND OTHER WESTERN COUNTRIES ARE TODAY'
Lets do what India needs from us.
Thank you, Dr. Abdul Kalaam

Wednesday, March 4, 2009

Sri Lanka-Retired Hurt on 3/3


Can't Forgive them.........

Our revered Sri Lankan cricketers were attacked in Lahore, leaving our neighbours embarrassed, shocked and with our heads shaken in that impact.
My heart is sad today for Sri Lanka, the nation and its generosity at a time when no country would visit Pakistan. I salute your cricketers. I am ashamed. And I am sorry. I hope they will give the extreme level punishment to that barbarians.., but please accept at least one little apology from a Pakistani. Forget who did it or when or how , regardless of anything. I hope At least one Pakistani will apologize to them whole heartily..Why dont our neighbours learn from the past?? .
I just remembering that word from Rig Vega-"Ma Nishadha".

Tuesday, March 3, 2009

When being wrong.............


I absolutely hate being wrong. This probably comes as no surprise to you, and I’m sure most people would agree with me on this. However, unlike most people out there I am quick to admit to it when I am, or have been, wrong. In fact, I’m constantly looking for things that prove me wrong. I’m constantly challenging myself, everything I know and everything I believe in. I even try my best to help people prove to me that I’m wrong. This is the important difference between me and most people. I hate being wrong, but I like finding out about it.
Ithhing , there’s nothing wrong with not liking when you’re wrong, but you have to know how to deal with it. It shouldn’t make you take the wrong decision, namely to refuse to admit to it and not taking the steps to do something about it. Often people refuse to even consider the fact that they might be wrong, let alone admitting to it. Even though you may not like the fact that you might be wrong, you should be willing to take a look at it and be able to admit to it the moment you start to realize you’re wrong and take appropriate actions immediately. This benefits not only you, but everyone else around you. And most of the time the biggest benefits are for you, especially for the long term.
Just think about it, the sooner you can find out that you were wrong and the sooner you admit to it, the sooner you can start to learn from your mistakes and improve yourself and your situation. This is one of the most important reasons why I love finding out when I’m wrong and even prefer to know this as soon as possible. It’s why I keep myself open to any information, suggestions, remarks etc. from anyone and anywhere, so that I can challenge myself with it as soon as possible. When you’re able to do this the right way (you have to be able to be objectiveand hav nothng to lose), you improve and grow much faster as a person compared to people who can’t. Those who can’t, stick with bad ideas and assumptions much longer with all the disadvantages that come with that, often not only for themselves but sadly also for people around them.
There are many reasons why people can’t easily admit when they’re wrong or simply refuse to even consider it. Often it’s just ego or fear for the consequences. Admitting that you’re wrong might mean losing an argument, having to change your beliefs about something, far reaching changes in your life and even losing important things that you may have. So it might not be very easy to admit to being wrong, but the benefits of doing it are always greater because of the simple fact that if you continue on the wrong path, it will only continue to get worse because of the snowball effect it will have. If you continue to hold on to the wrong assumptions for example, every decision you make based on that will likely be wrong, and anything you do based on those decisions will likely also be wrong and on and on it goes.
So in summary: Absolutely hate being wrong, but for that reason, love finding out about it as soon as possible. The sooner you correct yourself, the sooner you can start to improve. And to be able to correct yourself requires that you first realize and then admit that you’re wrong. To be able to realize when you’re wrong requires that you keep an opn mind, be objective and willing to challenge yourself and your opinions at any time and hav no fear of losing anythng. And again, it’s not easy but for those who are able to do this the benefits are huge, especially for the long term.But me(a creature who never learnt from experience)!!!!!!!!!

Wednesday, February 25, 2009

You too Comrade.........................


MEA CULPA................................................................

Coz i trust u!!!!!!!!!

I thought u are the apostle of democracy..............

I thought you are the Guardian Angel of Communism........................
I thought you have some unconquerrable views and values in politics!

I thought you have some.......

i am not getting words to express my feeling for you

Always i justified you...in front of everyone...

But Comrade

you have proved........

There is no indifference between you and others.................

I am sorry to say

I feel pity for you that you have come down so low that i dont know what to say...

I feel sorry for you..............

Coz you too the Slave

Of the throne of Chief minister

and "DEMO-CRAZY"

I dont have anything to say instead:

MEA CULPA.........................

MEA CULPA.........................

MEA CULPA............................
b'coz i had the idiotic political faith....................................................









Life is "not" Beautiful




Many people are of the opinion that life is beautiful. Most of them will even take the time to explain to you why they think life is beautiful when you tell them that you have a different opinion about it. They’ll start naming many different things that should be seen as proof that life is beautiful, while conveniently pretending that they don’t see all the cruelty that is taking place around them.
As you can no doubt imagine by now, I don’t think life is beautiful at all. In fact, I even wrote before that life is not beautiful. I do believe that life can be, or could be, beautiful. But it’s not. There might be some nice moments in everyone’s life, but if you look at the overall picture, it just sucks. Badly. Just look at the way it always ends. Is there anything beautiful about that?
Isn’t it interesting that the first thing that babies do when they get born is that they start crying? If life was so beautiful, wouldn’t you expect babies to start laughing and smiling as soon as they enter the world? Shouldn’t they be happy about it? Why cry instead? Where does that come from? Most babies won’t smile until after they are at least a few weeks old. Why is that? They can’t smile for a few weeks, but are perfectly capable of crying from the moment they are born, and even do so quite frequently!
The reason why this is so, I believe, is because life is full of pain and sadness. The moment a baby gets born, he starts to cry most likely because he feels the hostility around him immediately and can perhaps even feel the sadness and pain that is to come. Maybe he even regrets being born and shows that by starting to cry as soon as he’s born.
The fact that babies are perfectly capable of crying from the moment they are born, and that most of them won’t show their first smile for a few weeks, also shows the nature of life. You get born being perfectly capable to feel pain and sorrow and to react to it, but it isn’t until weeks later when you start to learn how to smile. It’s almost as if the baby needs a few months to get used to the situation, and tries to make the best out of it in the end. It’s like after a few weeks of crying about the tragedy of being born in this world of pain, he starts to get an attitude of “hey, since I can’t do anything about this, I might as well get used to it and try to make the best out of it.”
And I can completely understand.
Afterall, it is what most people would do in any bad situation. Try to make the best out of it. So even though life sucks, why not smile when the moment is there to smile once in a while?
That, however, doesn’t change the nature of life. It doesn’t change the fact that everything in this world seems to be based on the principle of pain and suffering. And it never will.

Friday, February 20, 2009

Signs of "True Love"


Have you ever wondered how you know if you truly love someone? I think I have the answe r because i did that once(Now i feel ugly when i think about that person even if she had an influence at me).
When you know that you would genuinely be happy about the fact that someone you love is happy or happier with someone elase, then you’ll know that you truly love that person. I’m not talking about trying to be happy for that person, or pretending to be happy and trying to live with the fact that you can’t be with that person. I’m talking about really feeling happy for that person, being able to listen to that person , and sincerely being glad and happy about the fact that he/she is happy and having a good time. (I rrealized that and allowed her to break out from me even if i wounded much..but she dint realized that and dint give me back what i showed her)
This is the ultimate test of true love, because when you love someone, naturally you’re going to want to be with that person and be loved back by that person. You’re going to want it really bad. I don’t think that I have to explain how seriously strong this feeling can be; I’m sure you know. So if you can stand the fact that this person would prefer, and would in fact be happier, with someone else, then that is already an accomplishment. But if you can also truly feel happy for that person while you have to let him/her go with someone else, then, I think, that that is more than enough proof of true love.
Ofcourse you will also feel sad and be in pain because of the fact that you can not be with that person, but when it’s true love, the feeling of being happy for that person will be far greater. So much greater that you would rather choose to have that person be with someone else instead of you, if it would make him/her happy or happier, or if you know that that would be better for that person.
A very good friend of mine tried to explain this to me in last january and she didn’t succeed. And this was a person who had a lot of influence on me. In fact, I’ve learned a lot from her and she’s really had a lot of influence in shaping me into the person I am today. At this point I’m not sure anymore if this is a compliment to her or an insult,Because she dsnt have any role in my life now. but that’s a different subject. What I’m trying to say is that this is not an easy concept to accept or to believe. Even I could not believe it one year ago. In fact, I just refused to even consider believing it or giving it a chance. It seemed so absurd. If you really love someone, you’ll want to be with that person, right?? How can you even stand seeing that person with someone else?? Let alone feel good about it! It’s just not possible!
Well, it is possible. Just don’t try to explain it to people who don’t want to believe it. Don’t even try to explain it to the person you love and are letting go. You could risk giving them the impression that you probably don’t love them very much. Not enough in any case. Because afterall, if you were seriously crazy about them, you wouldn’t be able to so easily, as it may seem, let them go. Let alone feel happy about it!
But the truth is the opposite. And as you probably already know, the truth is often more difficult to believe. True love is never only about your own needs. It’s never about a feeling of possession. It’s about liking someone so much that you would accept to lose if by doing that you can help that person to win. Even if it means losing the most precious and important thing to you at that time, namely that person him/herself.
There are two things, which are related to the current subject, that most women who know me (Including ----*) can’t understand about me:
I can’t be jealous. I don’t seem to notice or get angry when they try to make me jealous, leading them to think I’m not very interested in them or don’t love them that much.
I can easily let go, also leading them to think I’m not very interested in them or don’t love them that much.
With the above explanation, it should be easy to understand why I can’t be jealous. It should also be easy to understand why I would easily let someone go if she wanted to be with someone else, or if she had other priorities. It seems like most women would expect you to desperately fight to keep them with you, and if you don’t, they see it as a sign that you don’t care about them that much, or don’t love them that much. Some (most?) women even play games with you, just to see if you react the way they expect you to (become jealous). And if you don’t, they get really upset. If you do, it confirms you love them. I’ve actually experienced such a case at least once. After her little experiment, she noticed that I didn’t react the way she expected. And I noticed her acting strange to me and getting angry. And when I finally asked what was wrong, she was essentially like “You don’t love me! You don’t want me that bad! You don’t even get jealous!” And I’m like “Oooh, that’s what you were trying to do?” And from my perspective, it was quite hilarious.
It should also be easy to understand why I would allow my girlfriend or wife to go out on her own, even if she goes out to meet guys (friends, colleagues etc.). I understand that most guys would have issues with this.
I do however expect her to be very honest and faithful. And as is usually the case: with lots of freedom, comes lots of responsibility. And I can be equally as rigorous, as I can be flexible. Which basically means that there’s a 99.999% chance that if you damage my trust in you, it could be fatal. Fatal for the relationship, but not fatal for my love for you. Because otherwise, it would not have been true love.

Tuesday, February 17, 2009

The Good,The Bad And The Ugly............







The Good The Bad And The Ugly.....................