Trust, like love and respect, is an inside job. Until we learn to trust ourselves we will continue to find people and situations in our world that mirror back to us the fear that we just can’t trust anybody.
Most of us are taught that we can’t trust ourselves. And in a sense it is true. If we don’t really know ourselves, how can we possibly make good decisions? If we don’t really know what is important to us, how can we make wise choices. So many of us go through the motions, attempting to do what we think we should, or what other people think we should and then find that we don’t or can’t follow through on whatever we said we’d do.
We may decide on a course of action based on the outcome we are hoping for but before we get too far down that road we either lose interest or give up because it wasn’t what we thought it was and isn’t taking us anywhere near where we intended to go. Maybe we continue with it anyway because we committed to it or promised. (I just noticed that if you put committed and promised together you get the word compromised.)
As we stop buying into what other people prescribe or what works for them and realize we each have our own way, our unique set of priorities, preferences and parameters as individuals, we are on our way to self-trust. Taking the time to first discover who we are, what is important to us and perhaps most importantly, what we enJoy, we develop a relationship with ourself that supports us in building confidence in our ability to choose those things that are truly appropriate and inspiring to us.
When we begin to trust ourselves our experience with everything and everyone in our life shifts, and as Goethe said, “… then we will know how to live.”
And, so it is!
Most of us are taught that we can’t trust ourselves. And in a sense it is true. If we don’t really know ourselves, how can we possibly make good decisions? If we don’t really know what is important to us, how can we make wise choices. So many of us go through the motions, attempting to do what we think we should, or what other people think we should and then find that we don’t or can’t follow through on whatever we said we’d do.
We may decide on a course of action based on the outcome we are hoping for but before we get too far down that road we either lose interest or give up because it wasn’t what we thought it was and isn’t taking us anywhere near where we intended to go. Maybe we continue with it anyway because we committed to it or promised. (I just noticed that if you put committed and promised together you get the word compromised.)
As we stop buying into what other people prescribe or what works for them and realize we each have our own way, our unique set of priorities, preferences and parameters as individuals, we are on our way to self-trust. Taking the time to first discover who we are, what is important to us and perhaps most importantly, what we enJoy, we develop a relationship with ourself that supports us in building confidence in our ability to choose those things that are truly appropriate and inspiring to us.
When we begin to trust ourselves our experience with everything and everyone in our life shifts, and as Goethe said, “… then we will know how to live.”
And, so it is!
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